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Rejection

 

 

 

PART 1 - JESUS ABSORBED OUR REJECTION

Jesus submitted Himself to His Father His entire life. He was tempted intensely in ways that would have broken us in a blink’s time.  He was bad mouthed, lied about, beaten, humiliated, tortured, and killed...willingly.  He did it because that was what His Father wanted.  Is there more love than this?  

 

Even so, while on the cross, being tortured to death, during His most desperate time...His Father rejected Him.  

 

Matthew 27:46-50

And about the ninth hour, Jesus cried out with a great voice, saying, Eli, Eli, lama sabachthani; that is, "My God, My God, why did You forsake Me?...And crying again with a loud voice, Jesus released His spirit.

 

God the Father rejected Jesus at His most desperate time.  It makes one wonder if Jesus died from crucifixion or from a broken heart.  Why would God the Father ever reject Jesus when He was such a loyal Son?  This is why - for our atonement to occur, Jesus had to absorb God the Father’s wrath that was meant for us.  God the Father is just and His wrath will not be stopped.  When Jesus died on the cross, He willingly absorbed God the Father’s wrath for our sins and iniquities...but that’s not all.  He was cursed on the cross too, which allows us to now break curses...but that's not all.  His body was broken on the cross, which allows us to now heal each other...but that’s not all.  

 

...and now here it is...Jesus was rejected on the cross, which allows us to now defeat rejection.  It doesn’t matter that our parent, spouse, child, friend, co-worker, pastor, boss, team, or church rejects us.  If we are a disciple, we are part of His family.  Nothing and no one can ever take that away.  Through knowing we are part of His family and deliverance, rejection and its side effects can be removed from our lives.   We have the Holy Spirit, the Comforter, with us every step of the way.  If we allow the Holy Spirit to lead us - peace, joy, and the rest of His fruit will blossom in our lives.  He’ll allow us to cast out the demons that have developed strongholds in our lives.  Our damaged heart and mind can be healed.  


 

PART 2 - LEANING ON THE SPIRIT

The hurt from rejection is very real and can be very intense.  It can also be unrelenting if we have to be with someone who rejects us daily.  If we don’t reject the intense despair, hopelessness, loneliness, frustration, anger, bitterness, grudge holding, and self-pity, doors can easily open for demons to come into us.  As always, we must vigilantly lean on the Holy Spirit during intense times of suffering.  There may be times when the emotional turmoil is so intense that there is nothing to do other than repeatedly say, “Holy Spirit, I’m leaning on you.”  

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When we lean on the Holy Spirit we will still feel the intense and constant torment of rejection and it won’t be pleasant.  The difference is instead of the torment penetrating us a mile deep, it’ll be yards deep.  As we lean on Him more, it’ll become inches deep.  Eventually it’ll roll right off our back.  As disciples, we will endure because of our close relationship with Jesus through our close relationship with the Holy Spirit.  His fruit will bring us peace.  

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If we choose to lean on the Holy Spirit during the times of our most intense torment, He’ll move on our behalf.  Our soul will nestle up to Him and He’ll cover us with His protective wing.  During these times we’ll know we are under intense turmoil, but we’ll be able to watch this happen objectively, somewhat detached from our mind and body.  We can sometimes bounce back and forth between our body in torment and Him in peace, at our choosing.  During the very worst torment, this choice will need to be made minute by minute or even second by second.  We need to remember, it’s only a season of suffering.  He’ll see us through and it will pass.

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PART 3 - DEMONIC TORMENT

We don’t fight against people.  We fight against the demons influencing people.

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Ephesians 6:12

...our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the world-rulers of the darkness of this age, against the spiritual powers of evil in the heavenly realms.   

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When the demons are on the outside of us they can influence us directly through our body or our soul (thoughts, desires, and emotions).  This goes for everyone, including disciples.  If we don’t take this influence captive, it may open the door for the demons to come into us.  Their influence is more intense when they are inside us.  The demons can’t completely possess us if we are a Christian because the Holy Spirit is in us and He won’t allow that.  Although, He will allow for those demons to come in and influence the parts of our lives that we haven’t submitted to Him.  He’ll allow this because through the torment they cause, we’ll be motivated to run back to Him!  

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To prevent demons from getting into us we need to make a choice.   It’s the choice that disciples need to constantly make.  It’s the choice that separates disciples from the rest of the world.  It’s this: disciples choose to run every thought, desire, and feeling through the Holy Spirit filter.  If that thought, desire, or feeling is against the Word or the Holy Spirit gives us conviction, we reject it.  If we accept it, let it linger too long, or act out on it...the Holy Spirit may allow the demons to jump into us for tormenting.  

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If they get into us, it isn’t the end of the world.  As long as we repent and are willing to submit that area of our life to Jesus/the Word/Holy Spirit, He’ll be willing to cast those demons out through deliverance. 

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A special note about idolatry…  All of us who are tormented by rejection are certainly influenced by idolatry.  If someone close to us rejects us it can be extremely hurtful.  If we are always near them it becomes a constant bombardment of hurt in our life.  The situation may seem overwhelming and hopeless.  What’s happening here is we are looking through worldly eyes and letting our soul rule over the Holy Spirit.  We are putting that person over God.  This is idolatry.  We need to start looking through spiritual eyes.  We need to put every thought, desire, and emotion through the Holy Spirit filter.  If it doesn’t agree with the Word or we receive conviction by the Holy Spirit, we reject it.  This will be hard at first.  It’ll take faith.  We might have to repeat out loud, “I’m leaning on you Holy Spirit.  I’m leaning on you Holy Spirit” during the most intense second-by-second struggles.  Always remember, it’s a spiritual battle and God has given us the power and authority over the enemy.  When we finally re-center and put God first once again, it’ll be time to get back to work and do what disciples do.  

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For demons to enter us, we must first open the door by putting something between us and the Holy Spirit.  Here is a list of those somethings... 

  • Emotional hurt, emotional pain, emotional trauma, turmoil, torment, sufferig, anguish, grief, abandonment, unloved, unwanted, not acknowledged, unimportant, condemnation, guilt, sadness, heaviness, heavy heart, discouragement, low self-esteem, low self-worth, worthlessness, inferiority, undeservingness, shame, dirty, melancholy, apathy, despondency, despair, hopelessness, helplessness, always a victim, loneliness, withdrawnness, self-pity, depression, sorrow, self-harm, suicide, rejection, self-rejection. 

  • Embarrassment, anxiety, desperation, frustration, jealousy, envy, fear, failure, fear to fail, over sensitivity, disgust, self-disgust, anger, rage, hate, self-hate, bitterness, entitled to be ___, grudge holding, impatience, quick temper, ought, unforgiveness, offense, self-hate.

  • Idolatry of ___, comparison, life’s passing by/running out of time, craving to people please, need to prove yourself, inability to trust people, secretiveness, addiction, imaginations, fantasy, lust, vanity, pride, double mindedness, arrested development.

  • Ahab spirit.

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PART 4 - BENEFITS OF SUFFERING

Suffering sends a disciple running to the Holy Spirit for help.  The fluff and silly distractions of life start fading away when we do this.  We re-focus on submitting to the Holy Spirit’s leadership and obedience to the Word (Jesus).   

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1 Peter 1:6-7

...yet a little while, if it is needful, having been grieved in many various kinds of trials, so that the testing of your faith, much more precious than perishing gold, but being tested through fire, may be found to praise and honor and glory at the revelation of Jesus Christ;

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Being tested through fire burns away any facade we present about being a Christian.  It reveals our real hearts.  When we disciples go through a fiery trial we run to the Holy Spirit and lean on Him.  We set our face like flint and remain obedient to the Word and the Holy Spirit.  When we do this in the midst of suffering, we show the world where we really stand.  This brings praise, honor, and glory to Jesus, which is why remaining faithful during suffering is more precious than gold.  This is the life of a disciple.    

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Romans 9:28

But we know that to the ones loving God all things work together for good…

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The torment we face will make us lean on the Holy Spirit more than if we were to never experience the torment.  We will seek Him more desperately.  The torment may be so intense and constant that the situation may seem hopeless if we kept looking at the problem through worldly eyes.  We are then forced to switch to our spiritual eyes.  We will realize that there is hope.  We actually do have power and authority over the tormentors.  We start binding and loosing.  We start getting deliverance and doing self-deliverance.  We submit our will once again to the will of the Holy Spirit.  We take every thought, desire, and emotion captive and put it through the Holy Spirit filter.  If it is against the Word or we get conviction from the Holy Spirit - we reject it.  The Spirit’s fruit will blossom in our lives and we will once again find peace.  He’ll give us long-suffering to weather any unrelenting torment coming at us.  In the meantime, we will wage war against that unrelenting torment.  This is the way of a disciple.  


 

PART 5 - ACTION PLAN TO FIGHT REJECTION

As disciples, we attack rejection just like anything else.  Sometimes the rejection and hurt is so continual and intense it is almost crippling.  There seems to be no way out.  We need to switch from worldly eyes to spiritual eyes.  When we do, we’ll start fighting back and retaking the ground we lost.   

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The disciple’s action plan to fight rejection…

  • Know that feeling momentary rejection, hurt, anger, etc. is normal, but lingering on these feelings is sinful.  If it has dropped an anchor in our life, we’ve committed sin.  

  • We need to repent for those sins.  

  • We may as well repent for our ancestors while we’re at it and break any generational curses.  

  • Go through deliverance.

  • Be vigilant, always looking through spiritual eyes.  Always submitting our soul to the leadership of the Holy Spirit.  Being aggressive by binding and loosing.  Doing routine deliverance. What’s in us is more powerful than anything this world can throw at us.  This isn’t cheap talk, it’s the truth.  We’ve already won... if we have the faith to believe it.

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